i just find it especially funny that, with all the “don’t lump allos together!! don’t hypersexualize lgb people or woc and don’t desexualize disabled people, and if you lump everyone into allo you’re sex-shaming and oppressive!”
is tooooootally the opposite with kink. shame every single kinkster. they’re all cishet white (((abled))) scum anyway who just wanna feel special. if they say it’s to cope w neurodivergence or survivorhood that’s bad and they should fix it because their kink is oppressive!!
it’s not like the people most likely to see/be hurt by this are already marginalized or anything!!
(look. look. if sex-repulsed people have to learn how to not be oppressive to marginalized people who have complicated relationships with sex… and genital-repulsed people, with people w all kinds of bodies and dysphorias and in a body-shaming culture….)
((but of course, it’s much easier and safer to bash something simultaneously not-protected-by-straightness and mockable-as-straight/unqueer))
(((and it’s all in good fun right? it’s all in the name of sj and obliterating every single ‘problematic’ kink right? it’s a righteous war right?)))
((((i still need to find the draft of “how to be friends with a kinky person for kink-repulsed folks” i started. but honestly? it’s much the same as sex-repulsion or genital repulsion. and if you’re too uncomfortable just knowing somebody is kinky (or has sex as parallel)…that’s valid, but yes it may well affect the relationship.))))