So Coy wrote an excellent piece on ace and stone – how they have similar struggles, similar stigmas, yet are seen as incompatible and mutually exclusive, policed as wholly separate, all while holding some of the same draws to a community and identity. This is barely a summary, and I highly recommend reading the piece.
In the comments, I realized that oh, wow – some people were now seeing paper as incompatible with ace. Continue reading
This post was for the December 2014 Carnival of Aces, which is on Touch, Sensuality, and Non-Sexual Physical Intimacy. Initially 12/31/14 here.
I wish I was presently better able to compose an essay I would be satisfied with. As-is, I’m settling for churning out a rough, timely, more open-ended piece. Much of this is stitched together from previous posts, journal entries, notes. Lots of links, self-quotes. Lots of “I want to talk about X.”
Ambitions. Here are my keywords, the things I’d like to touch on:
- Touch aversion
- Sensory overload
- Sacred touch
- Kink, subbing, states of consciousness enabling touch
- Stone, paper, paper maché; stone butch, stone femme
- Physical integrity and autonomy
- Dissociation, depersonalization, derealization, dpdr
- Presence, embodiment, meditation, contemplative dissociation, rumination, OCD thought-looping and compulsion
- Repression (memory, physical response) and trauma
- Catharsis, processing, theatricality