[compulsory sexuality, grooming, sexual violence mention]
Painting sexual attraction as “rare” creates a scarcity model and increases pressure to act.
It plays into social grooming for sexual violence so hard.
I’ve been trying to articulate this for so long, and I was situating the problem in me. No.
(This is amplified if accompanied by the concept of “fleeting” or time-limited or fluctuating. While all these and rareness are real experiences, the way we talk about them — and expect sexual attraction to lead to sex — is so damaging.)