really getting into a lot of what emi has written, but especially wanted to share this piece:
the presence of consent should not be confused with the fairness or equity of the contexts in which such consent occurs
We have many choices in life, but we often cannot choose the number and quality of choices that are presented to us or contexts in which we must make choices.
from 2011. sound familiar?
(this is why i think context needs to be re-integrated into our words. like, say, sex-favorable….)
[content warnings: reference to sexual assault and abuse, self-harm]
Sex. Repulsed, averse, conflicted, ARC or arcflux, indifferent, ”’favorable”’… maybe my descriptor is “picky.” Continue reading
So I noticed when Asexual Agenda announced the new contributors, La Rain’s profile linked to a tumblr for a zine called FUCKED, about sexual dysfunction and sex-positivity and queerness.
I clicked that so fast and my goodness do I recommend. Continue reading
This is a brief(?) elaboration on why I consider Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) a vastly superior slogan to Safe Sane Consensual (SSC), and a bit of history on the two.
[content: kink, ableism and “sanity,” medical institutionalization and legal discrimination, brief discussion of abuse] Continue reading
This post was for the December 2014 Carnival of Aces, which is on Touch, Sensuality, and Non-Sexual Physical Intimacy. Initially 12/31/14 here.
I wish I was presently better able to compose an essay I would be satisfied with. As-is, I’m settling for churning out a rough, timely, more open-ended piece. Much of this is stitched together from previous posts, journal entries, notes. Lots of links, self-quotes. Lots of “I want to talk about X.”
Ambitions. Here are my keywords, the things I’d like to touch on:
epochryphal 