so i’ve written about being paper, about exploring paper maché, about getting wires crossed around maybe it’s more that i’m subby, maybe it’s about dissociating feeling like a tool and like having to make decisions/be Skilled and like too focused on orgasm + someone else
So Coy wrote an excellent piece on ace and stone – how they have similar struggles, similar stigmas, yet are seen as incompatible and mutually exclusive, policed as wholly separate, all while holding some of the same draws to a community and identity. This is barely a summary, and I highly recommend reading the piece.
In the comments, I realized that oh, wow – some people were now seeing paper as incompatible with ace. Continue reading
as i’m thinking about writing fiction again, i’m noticing how…not implausible, but un-writeable, certain things feel.
things i’d very much like to see written (or have happen), but cannot possibly seem to construct myself.
namely, at the moment, an arcflux character synching up with another character, so that yeses and noes and desires largely match and mismatches are no big deal.
…when ya fluctuate between repulsion-how-did-i-ever and desire-how-did-i-ever-not, and the latter comes with wanting to be desired (but the former sometimes means feeling dysphoric about being desired)
i cannot even write fix-it fiction.
and i hate that.
While I can’t directly respond to the call for more sharing on the subject of sex-favorable asexuality, Talia’s post reminded me that I don’t think I’ve seen many essay-style posts on personal experiences of being arcflux, at least not lately, so that’s what this’ll be. My goals here: a handy post for linking if I […]
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so Elizabeth just re-linked Sciatrix’s old 2011 carnival of aces…and it has some really good gems. mmm talking about Rent and touch.
noli me tangere especially speaks to me about paper maché things and touch sensitivity and frame-of-mind and dissociation and embodiment and selectively wanting touch overload zzzt and. dang.
this is when i wish i knew and was involved in old autistic and nb and grace community; the trans yadas, and dreamwidths, and all of that. it feels like identity groups were more concentrated back then.
rrrrrr i want more talk of touch and identity intersections.
I’ve been working with The Icarus Project for five months now, and there is so much potential in how we do things and what we envision.
It’s in our format, having three-to-five minute uninterrupted check-ins for everyone before a break and then open floor; it’s in our mission, our commitment to social justice and change and resisting power/privilege.
I want more. Continue reading
This post was for the December 2014 Carnival of Aces, which is on Touch, Sensuality, and Non-Sexual Physical Intimacy. Initially 12/31/14 here.
I wish I was presently better able to compose an essay I would be satisfied with. As-is, I’m settling for churning out a rough, timely, more open-ended piece. Much of this is stitched together from previous posts, journal entries, notes. Lots of links, self-quotes. Lots of “I want to talk about X.”
Ambitions. Here are my keywords, the things I’d like to touch on:
- Touch aversion
- Sensory overload
- Sacred touch
- Kink, subbing, states of consciousness enabling touch
- Stone, paper, paper maché; stone butch, stone femme
- Physical integrity and autonomy
- Dissociation, depersonalization, derealization, dpdr
- Presence, embodiment, meditation, contemplative dissociation, rumination, OCD thought-looping and compulsion
- Repression (memory, physical response) and trauma
- Catharsis, processing, theatricality