So Coy wrote an excellent piece on ace and stone – how they have similar struggles, similar stigmas, yet are seen as incompatible and mutually exclusive, policed as wholly separate, all while holding some of the same draws to a community and identity. This is barely a summary, and I highly recommend reading the piece.
In the comments, I realized that oh, wow – some people were now seeing paper as incompatible with ace. Continue reading
as i’m thinking about writing fiction again, i’m noticing how…not implausible, but un-writeable, certain things feel.
things i’d very much like to see written (or have happen), but cannot possibly seem to construct myself.
namely, at the moment, an arcflux character synching up with another character, so that yeses and noes and desires largely match and mismatches are no big deal.
…when ya fluctuate between repulsion-how-did-i-ever and desire-how-did-i-ever-not, and the latter comes with wanting to be desired (but the former sometimes means feeling dysphoric about being desired)
i cannot even write fix-it fiction.
and i hate that.
I saw a request for a summary of Leong’s paper, so as I’m reading I will be highlighting pieces I find of note (and discussing where I disagree or recommend further discussion). Long, but very skimmable I hope. Continue reading
if you say “i support all aces! this is a safe ace space! ace means anyone asexual demi or grey!”
and then also say,
“aces don’t experience any sexual attraction” — uh, where did the demi and grey folks go suddenly? and:
“it’s acephobic erasure to like X character having sex” — uh, what about…the aces who have sex… Continue reading
i just find it especially funny that, with all the “don’t lump allos together!! don’t hypersexualize lgb people or woc and don’t desexualize disabled people, and if you lump everyone into allo you’re sex-shaming and oppressive!”
is tooooootally the opposite with kink. shame every single kinkster. they’re all cishet white (((abled))) scum anyway who just wanna feel special. if they say it’s to cope w neurodivergence or survivorhood that’s bad and they should fix it because their kink is oppressive!! Continue reading
While I can’t directly respond to the call for more sharing on the subject of sex-favorable asexuality, Talia’s post reminded me that I don’t think I’ve seen many essay-style posts on personal experiences of being arcflux, at least not lately, so that’s what this’ll be. My goals here: a handy post for linking if I […]
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