kinkshaming

i just find it especially funny that, with all the “don’t lump allos together!!  don’t hypersexualize lgb people or woc and don’t desexualize disabled people, and if you lump everyone into allo you’re sex-shaming and oppressive!”

is tooooootally the opposite with kink.  shame every single kinkster.  they’re all cishet white (((abled))) scum anyway who just wanna feel special.  if they say it’s to cope w neurodivergence or survivorhood that’s bad and they should fix it because their kink is oppressive!!

My Ideal Inclusivity

I’ve been working with The Icarus Project for five months now, and there is so much potential in how we do things and what we envision.

It’s in our format, having three-to-five minute uninterrupted check-ins for everyone before a break and then open floor; it’s in our mission, our commitment to social justice and change and resisting power/privilege.

I want more.

RACK vs SSC — Kink, Consent, Ableism, Agency

This is a brief(?) elaboration on why I consider Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) a vastly superior slogan to Safe Sane Consensual (SSC), and a bit of history on the two.

[content: kink, ableism and “sanity,” medical institutionalization and legal discrimination, brief discussion of abuse]

Trauma, Kink, and Processing

*Content warnings for many kinds of trauma*  Initially 1/6/15 here.

I have processed more trauma, more effectively, through kink, than in any other way.